By Pema Gyeltshen and Emma Horn | Posted: Thursday February 23, 2017

Assembly speech given by Pema Gyeltshen and Emma Horn  on relationships, the value and resilience

Your words have power, use them wisely. Every term in the year we focus on one of our four values and for term 1 we are looking at relationships. Term 1 is a very suitable time, We have welcomed new members into our school and thus formed new relationships as well as built on the relationships we’ve had over the many years we have all been together. We can never forget or start neglecting these relationships and the attitude that we bring to them.

Our relationships enable us to achieve beyond barriers designed for the limits of one person. Whether it be a teacher spending extra time with us to help revise for exams, classmates or team members working together to solve a problem, or our closest friends encouraging us to aspire to greatness, support and guidance from others has the ability to mould us into the best possible version of ourselves. There is not one type of relationship that is unimportant, because no matter how closely acquainted we are with the people around us, our relationships allow us to learn, and help us to grow.

As Anthony Robbins once said, “the quality of your life is in direct proportion to the quality of your relationships”. Your own happiness is dependent upon how you treat others, as this, in turn, affects how they will treat you. So ensure that you show compassion and fairness; that you reciprocate even the smallest acts of kindness, because not only does this benefit your peers, but also yourself.

But we can never know the full potential of what our relationships might be if we don’t take the time to care for them in the first place. So easily in this day and age can we critique, judge or insult one another without thinking about the repercussions of our actions. A quote by William James “Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.” The attitude you bring to relationships and how you treat one another determines how that relationship is going to go.

At some point in our lives everyone begins to grow and change ,and this includes making new friendships, but that doesn’t make the ones previous any less great, it just means you’ve grown as people and that’s okay! As your interests change you’ll find so many new people out there but friendships aren’t exclusive to just two people, everyone has a place and everyone can be included. We can never expect to be the same our entire life. But it's about embracing the change, respecting others and yourself by allowing everyone to grow. We can learn so much about ourselves and each other if we are given the opportunity to do so.

We can improve our relationships with others by leaps and bounds if we become encouragers instead of critics. There is no justification on being rude to someone. Instead of looking at all relationships as expendable we must now look after the ones we have and will have as we go into the future. Preserve, build and trust in your relationships.

Our world has no shortage of negativity. It is everywhere, woven into the very fabric of our society. Thankfully however, we have a choice. We can choose to add to this despair, or we can show resilience, and refuse to give in by being compassionate, inclusive and kind. Because no matter your origin, your religion or your academic and sporting ability, everyone has the potential to be a good person.

So everyone, if you see a person in need, don't turn a blind eye and trust that they will be fine - help them. Show them that no one walks alone at our school. Prove that we are a group of teenagers that will make a positive difference in the world. Like Robin Sharma said, “Words can inspire, and words can destroy. Use yours wisely”.